Monday, November 29, 2010

Ruined Orgasms

Here are some definitions of what constitutes a Ruined Orgasm - that is one that a cum denial fan like me might choose not to count as a Real orgasm!
I would like to credit these definitions to an edger/deny-er mate of mine "Rusty -- founder of the Yahoo Group Perv-wankers"

1. Dude pounds pussy, slams a fag's throat, or whacks his bone till he's right at the point of cummmming. Then he pulls out and stops ALL stim, letting it throb & pump into mid-air.Some or even all of his load may spurt or ooze out, ending with a pathetic dribble. The orgasm is "ruined" cause at the very moment that his cock wants -- NEEDS -- total max stimulation, it gets . . . n o t h i n g.

2. When cumming, after 1 or 2 spurts, dude FORCES himself by sheer will-power and internal muscular control to stop the ejac. Most of the cumm-load is retained. Pressure to shoot is infinitely increased. This type of RO, IMHO, is by far the WORST. This technique results in the most SUPREME EDGE by far. You could go insane.

3. The dude's partner grabs the base of the dude's cock just as he shoots and clamps it shut forcing the cumm-load back up into his bladder. Or forces him to cumm with a sound filling & blocking his piss-tube. Ouch! (CAUTION -- this one can cause permanent injury.)

4. The top gives dude a painful distracting stim just as he shoots to supress or weaken the ejac -- a sharp SMACK in the balls, a wrenching nipple tweak, a slap in the face (or on his dick head, HARD), a JOLT of electro-stim to a sensitive body part. You get the idea.

5. Any technique or timing that prevents you from cumming in full, just the way you please, resulting in reduced enjoyment and/or fewer ejac spasms and/or a reduced cumm-load (though perhaps resulting in heightened lust & urgent need to shoot more or shoot AGAIN, . . . SOON!).

6. Some people, especially those new to the scene or "dabblers" refer to getting a dude really close to cumming and then backing off as an RO. Amateurs! We, of course, know this as Edging or Brinking, pursue it as a full-time avocation or career, and never confuse it with the Ruined Orgasm. It is after all, no orgasm at all, the very definition of Edging & Denial.

7. Total OVER-stimulation when cumming produces an excruciatingly Ruined Orgasm! The victim has been teased and edged repeatedly, perhaps for hours (days? WEEKS!!!), then when he is finally allowed to BLOW HIS LOAD his relief is only sweet for the briefest moment because the controller KEEPS RIGHT ON STROKING! If he is uncut, this is the point at which the foreskin is pulled all the way back and total firm stim is applied full force to the exposed head of his just-cummed cock. The rubbing, pulling, and tugging DOES NOT STOP until he has shot a 2nd (or 3rd!) load and/or until he has passed out.

8. Cumming suddenly whilst masturbating and stroking continuously, without warning and with no orgasm sensation or anything, and really watery cum.
This is an ejaculation-like expulsion of accumulated precum from the Cowper's Gland (or the seminal vesicles). The full ejaculatory mechanism that kicks in the enzymes that thicken & whiten a true cumm-load and empty out the prostate are not operating. Not a true ejac. No harm, no foul (if your counting uncummed days). An amazing sensation & a surprising event. It is an RO in a sense -- you wanna cumm bad, it feels sorta like you're cumming, but no real cumm comes out. Frustrating.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Cum Denial So Far

Ok, so before 2010 I had managed to go 11 days without cumming - see, I had always wanted to do this!
Friday 11 June 2010: Last cum before denial starts - my aim to beat 11 days.
I actually lasted until Friday 9 July without cumming - ie 28 days, and at this stage
I did not know much about Ruined Orgasms yet, so I didn't even have one of them!
I then came again on Saturday 10 July, but what happened then I now know to be an RO - my cum just spurted like water when I didn't even know it was going to happen and there was no feeling of pulsation.
I then embarked straight away on my next denial period, and this time the goal was to go more than 28 days - I managed 34 days to Friday 13 August. Because of the RO on the 10th, I now know this was actually 35 days!

Well at that time I had a problem with my PC so I could not reach other guys who would have encouraged me etc, and one thing and another, I just jacked off and came when I felt like it until the end of October.

So to late October, and around the beginning of November I suddenly realised that I had not cum since Sunday 24 October. Don't ask me why not, I don't know, it's just how it happened!
That made me think - hey, this is a great time to get back into cum denial!
Well, my goal was to beat 34 days - which should have really been 35 days because of the RO on 10th July, but I slipped up and came on Tuesday 9 November - however That was an RO too! This time I got so close to cumming when I was edging that I stopped short, however I had gone too far and after about 10 more seconds, out came the cum! It was actually really thick creamy cum, and the feeling inside during those 10 seconds is totally indescribable! However, because I wasn't giving my penis what it wants during an orgasm - ie stroking - it was an RO! So it didn't count!

Next orgasm - Saturday 13 November - exactly the same thing as on 10 July! Cum like water, no warning, no pulsation, no satisfaction! Another RO!

So this brings me to Wednesday 17 November - when I did actually have a proper UNruined orgasm! Lots of masturbation, edging, and cum - at the right time!
And that made my denial period this time 24 days - a bit short of my record and target but never mind.

And there we are - right up to date - that was the last time I came and not even an RO since, So from now on, I will just report anything that happens at the time.

Cum Denial

Hi again everyone
Sorry I haven't written anything here for a long time.
As the title suggests, I have started to get involved with Cum Denial since I last posted. Don't panic - I am still masturbating as usual, the difference is that I just don't always cum!
So here's the story so far:
Around June time I had been reading about how cool self cum-denial is, that's still with masturbation and edging sessions, but just not shooting a load - on purpose that is. I joined a few groups and began writing with some of the members also into the same thing. They are great guys!
I soon learnt that the longer time that elapsed after shooting a load, the more horny I became - so horny it was sometimes impossible to think of anything else. Sometimes I felt so horny it felt like my balls were bubbling over and if I even just 'touched' my dick it would shoot!
So who would Not want those feelings?!
But like all good things, it has it's downsides - sometimes you just need to think about something else and things start getting left - if you follow - and then you get nagging messages about harming your prostate - well I have a way of dealing with that now, so read on!

Yup, apparently I am 'allowed' what are called 'Ruined Orgasms' - in other words an emission of cum, but not how it should be - ie not satisfying.
There are a lot of examples of an RO [as they are known] and I don't expect every guy's list would match - what I might accept as an RO for myself, maybe another guy would not, and vice versa - but that's ok, each individual cum deny-er plays his own game - by his own rules.
I liaised with another deny-er and he told me what He considers to be an RO, and I've adopted that same list.

So that's the introduction - in the following posts will be the actual diary!